A walk around the ‘running around fields’.
Some time. Some family time.
A walk around the ‘running around fields’.
Some time. Some family time.
As I watch you play
Your favourite seaside game
On a windy day
I see, what a shame,
I wasn’t even watching.
At the time, back then
I was just busy talking
Hiding in my den
In my head, my thoughts
I didn’t see the beauty
Happening in front me.
Luckily Tara filmed it
And now I got to watch
A tiny part of my life
That had somehow escaped me…
Watching myself not watching
Missed moments of you growing
While still being there.
Being physically right here
But my head is somewhere else
And the sad thing is…
I bet it will happen again.
I don’t want to add anything to the general over drive and I’m aware that when I’m in writing mode, I end up in the zone and I’m not available for my family. My son ends up left to his own devices for too long while I’m just sat in front of a screen, typing away. I don’t want to do that to him. Even if it’s the hardest thing to do, I want to be present, to be with him as we share precious playful moments together. I know that his youth is very finite and that it won’t last forever, and I must make sure that I make the most of it and that I offer him precious moments that he will carry with him as memories into adulthood. That’s why I have decided to consciously limit the time I spend on the internet, trying to avoid this false sense of emergency that is so addictive and so predominant when one checks her emails 10,000 times a day.
Also I would like to focus more on my yoga practice as all these recent false emergencies have made me slip off again and neglect my daily practice. So I want to go back to spending more time trying to be present in real life, with my family and with myself, on my mat.
My recent experience trying to rescue four dairy cows has been quite challenging and I ended up getting into trouble with nearly all concerned parties (apart from the cows…) and that made me think a lot about what I want to do with FocalHeart. I knew that by getting involved with farmed animals, it would be quite hard emotionally, which is fine. I knew what I was getting into and I knew that dairy farming wouldn’t be the easiest area of farming to handle. I have been reflecting quite a lot about all of this lately… The life of a dairy cow is full of repetitive trauma. I know a dairy cow (who I really like a lot) who is 12 years old, still being milked twice a day and still giving birth to a calf every year… A calf that she might not get to have with her more than a couple of weeks… There is only so much a cow can take before she breaks… I have met quite a few broken cows and it’s so heartbreaking to see!
I’m definitely not advocating meat eating here, but at least grass fed animals reared for meat are pretty much completely left alone with minimal human disturbance, compared to dairy cows! So if that was to be the case… is lacto vegetarianism such a kind lifestyle on the animals?
The very few ethical farms that exist today truly believe in what they are doing, but their customers need to wake up and pop the bubble they are in.
I haven’t visited a lot of them but the few ethical farms that I have visited do care a lot about their ethical values. Their main problem is that they are too popular. They probably will dislike me even more for writing it publicly on the internet, but they are supporting too many customers because so many people agree with their values and make the ethical choice to shop there to support them. The feel good factor for shopping there is big. Now I’m not saying: “Hey people, don’t support your local ethical farms anymore”, I’m saying : “Hey people, start your own local ethical farm as there is a need for more of them”. A great way to change farming is to ‘become’ farming and to change it from the inside…
Currently there isn’t enough of them, and the demand for the highest animal welfare standards is increasing. All these well meaning customers are actually putting a big strain on the animals. Farms are at their maximum capacity, having the maximum amount of animals that their land can support, but the demand is unlimited and growing exponentially!
I’d like to say that again: ethical farms can only have a limited amount of animals living off their land but their customer base has no limits and some ethical farm shops even buy in products from other farms when they run out, so that their customers are not disappointed and won’t go shopping somewhere else. This success is putting more strain on the animals, and the farm ends up removing the calves from their mums earlier so they can get more milk in order to make more yoghurt, cream, cheese, etc… so that the shelves are not empty.
There is a serious need for more small scale, local, organic farms – there is no denying it. The world will not go vegan and the vast majority of people are buying their animal food from supermarkets, which are buying them in bulk for as cheap as possible which is having a devastating effect on farming and on the farmer’s life. Conventional farming will not change because they can’t. They are stuck with their mortgages and with ridiculously unrealistic quotas. To me, it seems that the very much needed change in farming will come from small local organic farms, as their customers make the conscious decision to support them because they are willing to support this change. As customers they have the power to encourage their local organic farm to take it a step further, in terms of animal welfare.
So people need to appreciate dairy and its hardship a bit more and stop drinking milk as if it was coming out of a tap. They need to implement discipline with it and consume it with respect and deep appreciation. They need to accept that there should be time without dairy in their local farm and not run to the supermarket to get it instead, as it’s putting strain on other cows somewhere else.
In my opinion the only way that farming will change, is if people start more small organic community farms to support their community and their community only. Customers need to understand that these small local farms have their limits and if they want to make a difference then they should tune in with the natural rythm of these farms and accept that, for instance when the cows are calving, people should try to go without cream, their favourite yoghurt or even dairy altogether for a while…
This issue brings up a lot of questions regarding people’s eating habits. It may be that being too stuck in a belief system or a particular dogmatic system might be one of the main reasons why things got so out of hand in the first place, as in the myth around dairy being such a staple, daily necessity? Also the myth around (grass fed organic) meat being the worst product in terms of animal cruelty, the myth of ethical shoppers who believe they are doing such a great thing by shopping at ethical farm shops and spending an absolute fortune there every week, when really they are causing a big strain on the animals who have to go through such hardship… Keep going there, but be mindful! Be grateful and appreciate every single animal product you buy for what it is, because behind every single animal product there is a sacrifice. May it be the sacrifice of a life, of a calf…
I’m not denying the need for animal foods in a human’s diet. I was vegan for eight years and at the end I wasnt doing well at all. I ended up undernourished. I love the idea of veganism, as an ideal, a vision for the future, and I hope that we, as a species evolve in that direction… but this is not the reality we live in right now. And right now, animal foods have played a big part in our evolution and are still essential for a lot of people. So telling people to go vegan is a nice idea but it’s not going to work. We all need to be kind to ourselves, and to each other… and to work on having a better understanding of death so it’s no longer the worst thing that can ever happen. Death happens all the time, so as my friend Dolly the cow told me, it’s good to think about it and to be aware of the fact that we, too, will die at some point. I have asked quite a few farmed animals what their thoughts were on death and most of them have healthier and more detached views on that subject and with more clarity than most of the humans I know!
Anyway… I’m off to get my son ready for bed. I have done it again… he is waiting for me and is trying to get my attention!
Have a lovely night!